Child's SuccessWhile it is more common to give parents suggestions on what they can do to guide their children through life, published a surprising article on what NOT to do if you want your child to succeed. Of course they also included suggestions on what parents can do instead of the actions they say are less than beneficial.

Doing Your Child's Schoolwork

In "Helping Your Child with Schoolwork" we discuss how it may be tempting to do all or most of your child's schoolwork to see that it gets done. says, "By taking over when your child isn’t doing what he needs to do, you’re sending a signal that kids don’t need to manage their own time, because you’re his personal assistant and alarm clock…Kids also perform better in school when they know that failure is part of learning."

If you think you may be doing too much of your child’s schoolwork, you don’t have to be ashamed or suddenly leave your child to face all his or her work alone. You can reflect on your behavior, and if need be, step back a little and encourage your child to tackle more on his or her own.

Telling Your Child that Other People are to Blame

If your child has a conflict with someone and you automatically assume your child has played no part in it, you will set him or her up to not accept responsibility. Listen to your child's version but also try to get information about the behavior of others involved from your child or from someone else, like someone who works at your child’s day care or after school program.

As a parent, you should be in your child’s corner; you just don’t want your child to think that he or she never needs to make any adjustments.