Instead, Educarer recommends trying to break the tension by not taking sides and voicing gentle observations:
Modeling better behavior is the best way to create a change. This takes patience, however, because toddlers can seem unreasonable to adults who already know 'the rules'. However, over time, you will find your child will take up your example.
"…young children are very capable of initiating incredibly generous exchanges all by themselves. We just tend to pay a lot more attention to the really loud conflicts, rather than the quiet kindnesses."
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